Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Becoming...

Life with a two-year old is extremely interesting and challenging.  I couldn't have imagined how trying it can be and is.  My sweet little baby who just a few months ago said, "yeah" to  almost everything I suggested is now responding with "no".  And not just "no", but " no. No. NO!"  It his go-to response to any question or suggestion.  I am constantly checking my attitude to try and maintain patience and composure.  I know I can't be perfect and Lord knows I am not, but I want to respond lovingly to instruct and guide my boy.  Sometimes I wonder if I'm even on the right track the way that I handle some of the situations that arise.  That's another conversation altogether...
The interesting part does outweigh the challenging part, for sure.  It's a blast to be a part of the games he creates and to discover the world again through his experiences.  It is amazing the things I realize I've been taking for granted when Bobby discovers them himself for the first time.  Beautiful world.  Beautiful life.
He's learning so much right now and growing by leaps and bounds.  Where just a few weeks ago he wouldn't try certain things he is trying them now.  He is still shy about trying different foods and happily sticks to his staples/favorites, however he is now trying to pronounce any new word he hasn't mastered.  This is a lot of fun!  It's awesome to hear him work to figure things out.  I try to encourage him every time he does this even if we don't connect on what he's actually trying to say.  He keeps trying and doesn't get frustrated too often with this.
Bobby is also learning to be a big brother.  As his baby brothers get older too (11 months old already!) they are demanding more interaction and more of his attention.  Most of the time he will give it and is easily directed to share or help them grab a sippy cup or find a favorite toy.  He is even sharing his blankies with them, which is really something special!
I keep reminding myself to try to just hang in with whatever this phase in his life brings because too soon he won't be two anymore.  One of the very reasons I started this blog was to remind myself and to encourage others to slow down, smell the roses, take in the scenery, enjoy every moment, be present even in the midst of trials and challenges.
My two-year old makes life very interesting, very challenging and very fun.  I can't imagine a day without him and I thank God he is in my life.  I am becoming a better person for it.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

4 a.m.

I woke up at 4 a.m.
No crying baby.  No crazy alarm clock malfunction.  No passing sirens.  Just "up".
My mind started racing.  Mostly fears, I have to admit.  I notice my anxiety level increases the busier I am.  The busier I am the less time I have for self-care and reflection.  The less time for self-care and reflection equals a tense and anxious mama.
2011 was over in a flash.  I can't believe we are beginning 2012.  No, getting up early isn't a New Year's resolution.  I just decided to get up rather than trying to get back to sleep, which would have only made me more groggy once a baby did cry around 5:30 or 6.  No, no resolutions were made at all.
I've been considering the words "resolution", "resolve", "resolute" and no matter the form, the strength and determination and perseverance needed to take action on a resolution seems to allude me.  I have many good ideas, intentions and wishes for myself and my family.  My favorite thing to say to excuse my lack of follow-through on some things is that "I'm an ideas person".  I'm great for a creative idea, but don't ask me to come up with how to carry it out and then to actually CARRY IT OUT.  I want to and often wish I had the resources (internal and otherwise) to carry out my plan, but I just...don't.
2011 brought us two new additions to our family.  Life with Teddy and Sam added to our three part unit has been precious, sweet, exhausting, hard work, and simply beautiful.  Bobby is an excellent big brother and Pete is just the best of the best as far as daddys (and husbands) go.  I couldn't be happier or more content with my guys.  I am so grateful and thankful.
My mind was racing this morning and as I thought about my family I decided we as a family need to come up with a fire escape plan.  Based on my overly anxious thought process this morning, this is what I'm determined to talk about this week.  I can make that resolution.  It's a good idea and I'm sure that I can see it through.
I want to be a good role model to my children, and an encourager in word and deed to my husband.  All of these things are made more difficult when I am tense, stressed and anxious due to lack of taking care of myself. My initial goal in beginning to blog was to chronical the steps I planned to take in increasing personal wellness.  I must say, other than the random Wii fit workout, I have done little toward personal wellness.  The new goals I set forward have not been carried out.
This is not Sarah being hard on herself and posting it for the world to see so that maybe someone will make a kind comment or excuse me for my lack of follow-through on this.  No, it is me being openly honest with you and myself.  By doing so I hope that if/when I do accomplish some of these things I've discussed, we will all learn from the process or will be encouraged by the positive changes made.  (i.e. If I can do it, so can you.)
While I'm not claiming it as a "resolution" I will say that I hope to learn some "follow-through" this year.  That those good ideas I had in 2011 when I began to blog would become a new lifestyle.  I'm aware of my failings, now I want to focus on my strengths and decide how they can help me accomplish what I wish to accomplish.
I won't be getting up at 4 a.m. every morning, but it was nice to have the time to sit, write and reflect.
Thank you for "listening".
God's blessings to YOU in this new year.